Parents With Separation Anxiety
Leaving your child in the hands of teachers at school can be a difficult thing to do. I have put together a few things to consider that can help you get on with your day and celebrate your child’s journey into preschools.
1. Remind yourself that separation is a part of life. It is important for your mental health and that of your child’s if you are able to go about your day as normal. Go out for coffee, read a book or meet some friends. It doesn’t matter what you do with your time, but you should think of it as your time.
2. Loose the guilt. Whatever you choose to do in your time, do it without the guilt and anxiety. Feel safe in the knowledge that your child is in the hands of someone who is experienced, qualified, and someone you trust. Remind yourself that you are a valued part of your family and need time to recharge, making you a better parent to your child.
3. Never make your child feel guilty. Your child will pick up on any nervousness or uncertainty you may be feeling. It is important you maintain a positive attitude and outwardly display your calm and trust with the teachers and school. Parental separation anxiety often transfers to the child and will contribute to their own anxieties, this will in turn trouble you and it will lead to a cycle of guilt. You don’t want your child to feel guilty for leaving you at school, so ensure that you leave with optimism and excitement for your child’s day ahead.
4. Leave the classroom. When you’re leaving your child for the first week, start with a short visit of around 2 hours. This will ease the anxiety for both you and your child. When you are leaving, say goodbye in a natural and positive way knowing you will return shortly. Try and avoid turning your goodbye into an emotional, long drawn out ordeal. Not only will you upset yourself, you will upset your child and all prospects of an enjoyable integration into the class that morning will rapidly disappear.
Remember it is normal for children to cry or be upset when you leave. This phase usually passes quickly and your child is often settled by the time you are in your car.We have genuine parent testimonials telling about how their kids adapted to their new life. However, some children do take longer to adjust and this is perfectly normal. If the school staff have any concerns or feel that your child is unduly upset, they will contact you.